Dating someone poorer than you
The Good Men Project recently pondered, what’s a man without money? I’ve never been one to focus on money — my own or someone else’s — or see it as a path to happiness.
I grew up learning learning how to sell drugs, fight, work on bikes, make moonshine, etc. My SO comes from upper middle class, went to private school, family celebrates birthdays, having a fridge half filled of food is "getting low" etc. [...] We never worry about money because I can make a twenty feed us for weeks and she knows when to remind me to spend money on myself. I was ecstatic that I had my first 5 driving lessons paid for me as my present from my parents.
That’s why the pro-marriage people have it all wrong when they say marriage will get low-income women out of poverty.
While studies have shown that low-income women value marriage and have more traditional views about marriage and divorce than others, they don’t want to get hitched to a man who is going to drag them down.
The article points out what I’ve observed previously: the issue these days isn’t so much that the male schoolteacher is “intimidated” by the high-paid female advertising executive (there are some, but you don’t want them anyway), but rather that the high-paid ad exec refuses to date the schoolteacher. Isn’t the point of being independently wealthy so that you can do what you want, when you want?
Doesn’t the value of being self-sufficient come in not having to worry about someone supporting you?