Lonely grandma dating
Perhaps it’s because, as women in our 60s, or older, we simply don’t feel like we need anything anymore.Or, maybe the traditional gifts of knitting sets, customized mugs, bath salts and jewelry simply don’t appeal to this generation of modern grandmothers.But she didn’t want to cause a fuss or be a nuisance. Fear of being seen as a nuisance, or upsetting someone and being shunned, is creeping into these relationships like a virus.It can almost feel in some families that time is used as a bargaining tool. She frequently tells me she finds the British attitude towards the elderly utterly incomprehensible.I felt the pressure: The future of my people was at stake! The school was arty, musical, nerdy, and had a substantial Jewish population. Even though I no longer felt outside the norm, I still had trouble getting dates … Every Jewish woman I asked out on a date rejected me.I resolved that I would only go out with Jewish girls. I attributed this to the fact that I was kind of nerdy: My extra-curricular activities included musical theater, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons, not exactly the types of things that made a guy popular with the ladies. I had numerous opportunities, on the other hand, to date non-Jewish women.Most of the older women I know aren’t sitting in their rocking chairs knitting (not that there’s anything wrong with knitting!) They are hiking with friends, traveling, dancing, starting companies, going back to school, playing golf, learning Chinese ink painting, cycling, gardening and, most of all, staying social.
I am 72-years-old, twice married and a widow of a few years. When my second husband died, I had over four years of difficult legal and financial problems because of his self-made will.It was short, but it spoke volumes about the abysmal way we treat our elderly in this country.‘You can also be a long-distance granny when your family live close-by,’ she wrote.‘I live about 25 miles from my four grandsons but so far in 2017 we have seen two of them for about three hours.’ And the final cri de coeur: ‘Just a phone call would be welcome.’As a journalist, I wanted to know more and speak to this lady, to hear her story. Having just become a grandmother — my son Elias and daughter-in-law Eva presented me with a granddaughter, Amber Ann, on November 29 — it seems to me one of the cruellest ironies of today that families can exacerbate loneliness among the elderly rather than protect them from it.The house is now on the market and I can't wait to buy a smaller, more practical one.I know that I have changed lately and become withdrawn.